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Miss Suéter is one of my favourite songs by João Bosco and Aldir Blanc. The song was immortalized in the voice of the great singer Angela Maria. Its bears the signature of the lyricist Aldir:”Fake blondes fascinate me (oh, the black lingerie)/ With freckles, penciled eyebrows and Coty perfume“.

In her mouth, this attractive lady holds “two pivots so graceful/ among natural jewels” and her eyes resemble “tiny fishbowls/ Of tropical minnows“. Ingenious, bittersweet, totally Aldir!

I hummed the song in my head as I went through a preliminary dental procedure, which (now I realize) will turn myself a bit like the song character, for I will also have two graceful pivots among my natural jewels.

Any alteration in the mouth affetcs directly the way the air moves inside it when we articulate. Therefore, the slightest change may affect the voice. Maybe this explains why I was so worried about the procedure, until I found a professional who knew how to clearly explain all the phases of the treatment.

I felt safe and in good hands and that made things a lot easier. And painless! My face did not get swollen and I did not even need to take the prescribed painkillersis. It is reallly amazing how information is able to assuage our fears and move our lives forward!

Well informed and in the hands of a competent professional, the whole process was much easier than I imagined, which made me think how many times we fail to make the right decisions simply because we are not aware of all the possible options.

How many times do we procrastinate on important decisions because we mistakenly think we will not be able to handle all the implications?

Sure, each challenge in life demands a tailored reaction. Sometimes patience is the secret, sometimes boldness is the best, but the essential ingredient is always the same: information.

Unforeseen events will happen, accidents may occur, but the ability of bodies and ideas to regenerate garantees that the magic will go on.

Be seeing you!

G.F.

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Rainer Werner Fassbinder explores, with his usual mastery, the theme of fear in such movies as Angst essen Seele auf (Fear devours the Soul, 1974) or Angst vor der Angst (Fear of Fear, 1975). In both cases, the protagonists need to deal with an urgency for change that collides with the fear of losing control of the situation.

What is your fear? Do not say you have no fear, because I will not believe you. So, starting from the premise that being afraid is part of the human (and not only) condition, let us talk about this feeling.

Fear has a bad reputation and yet it is very necessary in our life. In fact, like everything else, you just need to know how to use it in your favor. My technique for dealing with fear is as follows: I embrace the fear and break it down into several smaller fears that are easier to deal with.

A good way to start this process is to remember that fear releases several hormones, including adrelanine, which sends us a clear and direct answer (beat it!) and that can even be used as a driving force to move forward.

Our brain is always trying to protect itself/us from changes, because changes mean adjustments. And that includes the classic self-sabotaging thought: “Should I really do this?” which is your brain’s equivalent of saying, “Are we going to be as safe in this new condition, as we are now? It has nothing to do with cowardice, but with self-preservation.In other words: fear makes evolution possible.

That is why I deeply respect my fears, but also, precisely because I want to evolve, I try to calm my ever attentive brain. Right now, for instance, I am trying to convince it that confirming a lecture, two shows, a translation and an article for the end of the month will not lead to my extinction. Perhaps to extreme fatigue, but not to extinction.

The brain is very smart and it might take a while til it can be convinced, but with persistence and confidence I usually manage to make my fears so small, that they look like, I don know, like a battery. Yes, a battey I can use to provide me some extra “zing”, and feed me for my next conquest.

Be seeing you!

G.F.

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